Larrie and I have had to be apart for quite some time and today , having just missed Valentine’s Day, which is when we usually do what we do best , love songs and duets. It’s also Larrie’s birthday this Friday and I am already saddened at not being able to be with him for it.
So, I made him this video from my photos and my own music
A classic song of love and the challenges that must be overcome in order to have that love come into fullness.
The song reflects the level of divine connection that exists in covenant love, beyond our physical limitations and the requirements sometimes existing in our lives, that we cannot simply ignore. In the novel series, “Escape To Ecclesia”, this ‘separation’ is depicted as multi-layered but is also overcome on all levels through the knowledge that love is more than merely being physically present. It knows no bondage to time, nor dictated to by distance. Ecclesia presents this love as being “In the [LIMINAL] Space Between”.
Liminal meaning being part of two or more realms, yet in crossing thresholds of all, belonging specifically to none. E.g. the stretch of sand that is beach at low tide, and ocean at high tide is neither truly beach nor ocean, but a unique space of its own because it is both.
It is the point where things meet and fuse together.
Relationships are all about liminal communion. The way of a man with a woman is this kind of fusion. A baby in his mother’s womb is both his own being and part of hers. Likewise, when nursed. True and deep connection intellectually, creatively, spiritually and /or emotionally is also a fusion of souls.
We are desperately lonely without these connections. Superficial and shallow games will never answer the deep drive for union. and communion and belonging
We meet God in the ‘space between’, in the realm of the Spirit—and nothing else has the power to fully satisfy us with lasting goodness the way an encounter with God does.
This coming Valentine’s Day, Our Fireside Romance is doing something special at the Station House Cafe, Point Reyes Station!
Our Fireside Romance does Music for Lovers like no one else!
“You make me want to treat my wife better”, claimed one listener. ❤
Along with our exceptionally romantic repertoire especially for lovers, there will some gifts and one time offers for those who attend in person. We are going to be recording the event LIVE and perhaps videoing it as well.
We will be putting some music out on Spotify from this night and will keep you updated.
And of course, any and all live streaming and posting is welcomed and encouraged! (But don’t get distracted from your sweetheart! lol)
You can let us know of your intention to attend on our Facebook Event Page , use the contact form below to give us an R.S.V.P. heads up. Subscribing to the blog will ensure you get any updates about the upcoming event as well. Knowing how many plan to attend will make it easier to prepare the gifts we have for you, too!
You can also right click on the flyer below and print it out for your frig! Please feel free to spread the Word !
Larrie and I are super excited about this event and look forward to it- and meeting up with you!
Here’s a little sample as an appetizer…altho’ we do this more as a duet now, so it’s even better! Feel Like Making Love
Our Fireside Romance LIVE CD Pre purchase
This purchase secures your copy of the upcoming LIVE recording on Valentine's Day at the Station House Cafe, Point Reyes Station Ca. and your place on the "In Attendance" list on the cover artwork.
Of course, payment can be made on the night too, in the form of cash or cheque.
Mum, Rachel, reading vows to raise Pearl in the teaching of the Lord
mum reading vows to raise Pearl in the teaching of the Lord
Dad ( kani) reading vows to raise Pearl in the teaching of the Lord
Family watching on…
Family watching on…
Family watching on…
Family watching on…
That night , Our Fireside Romance performed at Spaghetti & Jazz…but still trying to get some visuals of that.
Soon after, we flew to Sydney, and my son, Paul picked us up and took us to my mum’s, then after a GRAET night reuniting with my 2 brothers and 3 sons and sharing some music, we went up into the Blue Mountains.. Woodford , where we stayed a while with my little brother, Jamie.
The airbridge to Woodford station, coz we did take a train ride into Parramatta so Larrie could meet one of my friends, Andrew, with whom he had connected on Facebook.
I enjoyed being with my family so much and Larrie had a chance to meet a few more and deepen some relationships with others he already knew.
we enjoyed a breakfast in Burleigh, a lunch at Green Day cafe ( I think) and did an impromptu gig in Coolangatta, after attending A friend’s CD launch
Lunch with my love
Pearl and Grandma
Pearl and Grandma
Breaky at Burleigh
Breaky at Burleigh
Visiting Deb Bates
Visiting Deb Bates
Visiting Deb Bates
Impromptu Sunhouse Surf kiosk gig
Deb’s CD Launch
Deb’s CD Launch
Some video of the impromtu Sunhouse gig in Coolangatta…
sorry the first one is sideways… sound is clear tho 🙂
And finally… some fun with Pearl. I thought I haad some of her with Poppa Larrie too… but…maybe next time.
Packing Bags Again…12 sleeps!
Given that Larrie and I hail from two different countries, and from places that are about 12000 km/8000mi apart, across a massive expanse of water known as the Pacific Ocean, it is not surprising that the “LD” of our “LDR” will have a permanent place in our day to day
Every day, I ache about being away from my home country and culture and not being a part of daily life with my children and new baby granddaughter, or being close enough to visit my mum, sis, bros etc. Don’t ever underestimate the other ‘LDR’s in your life when contemplating such an up-ending, up-rooting move.
Anyway… joy of joys!!!
Larrie and I are travelling to Oz in just 12 sleeps!!! Hallelujah!
And for the first time, we are actually going to travel together! ( at least, one way) I am going to stay longer than he.
Music DownUnder I am sure there will be music and singing but I don’t know all the details yet, so you’ll have to watch the calendar for whatever we may be doing in our southern jaunt. We do have a seniors gig for Sept 18, with our mate, Col Atkinson… this image is from late last year.
Family Time, family time…and more family time.
Two of my beautiful sons are celebrating 26th and 29th birthdays, so we’ll be gathering at my mum’s in Sydney for that special occasion. I will O-Ding on everyone as much as possible!
This is from my sons’ birthday last year, at their dad’s, in Sydney. Four of my five gorgeous gifts from God… from left , Matt ( 26 on 15/9), Paulie ( 29 on 17/9), Parrish and Sarah “Possum”. Paul is a miracle, as he was confirmed dead by two doctors in the womb at 10 weeks after a widespread abruption in the placenta-it detached from the uterine wall. But God resurrected him!!! Hallelujah!
So, these are the plans. We have been keeping busy with singing at senior centres and the Cinema Grill in Alameda, doing CPR classes and for me, the odd blog and painting…AND growing our garden! Check out our tomatoes!
And it’s harvest time!
Next time I write, will likely be in Oz…can’t wait!!!
Blessings in the name of the Lord Jesus!
Our Fourth of July Holiday Our Fireside Romance had a lovely little break away from the Bay Area over the July 4 holiday.
We have friends that have a nice cabin in the woods on Lake Almanor, some 260 miles from our door. It was a lovely drive once out of the traffic and get on Highway 5 heading north.
Seeing pockets of gum trees along the went made some locations look reminiscent of home, although they lack any of the accompanying wildlife I’m used to. Our trees love the hot, dry climate of the west slightly inland from the coast and benefit greatly from a good burn-off. The East Bay Area never really gets that hot, constantly tempered by winds and/or fog, but there are tons of gum trees. Whilst they flourish through a good burn and their oil acts as combustion liquid, the native trees do not replenish so well.
One thing the road trip lacked, giving it away as NOT being Ozzie, was the absence of something “BIG” lol.
Many of the pit stops on the Pacific Highway, are the milestone icons, such as The Big Banana, The Big Medieval Knight, The Big Avocado, The Big Pineapple, The Big Prawn and The Big Merino Sheep, just to name a few. As well as, The Dog on the Tuckerbox and The Black Stump. Attractions that grew up very organically within the local communities where they are encountered.
Larrie at the Big Banana and beneath the Big Prawn.
Of course, there are natural landmarks, fields of sunflowers full of glorious gold and green ( which just so happen to be Australian National Colours-even though our flag is red, white and blue!) We caught some great sights of the very tall, snow capped Mt Lassen, throughout our trip , but we also encountered a lot of smokey haze from one of those fires in Yolo County, obscuring hills and mountains on all sides of the vast valley plains.
We weren’t away for long and I had my heart set on seeing a sunrise on the water, since I hadn’t seen a sunrise at all since leaving home five months ago…and I was used to watching almost every day, and frequently over the Pacific Ocean. I was up early enough to enjoy two of the three mornings and had to walk a 30 minute down hill and 40 minute uphill trek to get them! Always worth it.
Our friends had a 4th of July party on the middle day which kept us busy from early till late. We had music and I videoed these three brothers (Bucky, Denny and Dave May), who were most entertaining. Our hosts videoed a little of us as well.
I collected a lot of photographic content for creating some momentos, and maybe gifts, but am yet to paint anything. Still, this is a version of a momento! 😊
Below is one popular view for local artists and their en plein aire adventures which I hope to capture in water colour as well. ( Will let you know when I do!)
My takeaway from this blog is…don’t wait to go away to enjoy the beauty around you. One thing I noticed is that I enjoyed being to relish the different conditions, but I take time every day to soak in and savour God’s creation wherever I am-sometimes from a simple flower, or fluttering butterflies, or beautiful skies. Whether tiny or vast, such things are so easily missed in the busyness of many peoples’ days. I make a point of looking for them!
Create beauty in your own little corner-just for you and God to share-your secret place, secret garden. Using your imagination to escape to a beautiful place, right where you are, has been proven to be the ‘stuff of holidays’. People who practice creativity do it as a lifestyle, losing themselves wholeheartedly in an expressive endeavor or project-however small. This is attested as having the affect of a holiday, disconnecting us from the cares and stresses of the days in which we live.
The whole hearted aspect is the critical component.
My challenge to you: take a holiday daily. Set your clock for however long you can give yourself, select a positive focus or activity (ANYthing) and get to it, abandoning all thought for everything else till your allotted time is up. Increase your time whenever you can.
Take note of the effects on your soul and psyche…and please…
Tell me all about it!
This blog touches on the themes we’ve been looking at previously, but with a twist.
In earlier posts, I spoke of how music can help with the nurture and connection of long distance relationships by aiding with the creating, storing and retrieving of memories and precious moments in our stories. (Of course, you don’t have to be at a distance to enjoy such benefits). I also wrote about how we can use creativity to express uniquely personal aspects of our affections and joint experiences using small artworks and books.
In this post I want to share how these same things can do even more than create beautiful memories or fan the fires of romance and generally be used to build and strengthen relationships. They have potential to heal and restore them as well.
In a recent post for one of my other sites, I wrote a blog called In The Beginning, God Created…and I quote from that when I say, Creativity is the bridge between us that designs connections and links that draw us out of ourselves and into another.
Using music or art or text or craftsmanship of any kind, we can communicate wonderful things that would be almost impossible to express easily in a conversation. If a picture paints a thousand words, then, such things spell out volumes of content. In addition, sometimes due to circumstances, conversations are unlikely or seemingly impossible. Looking for other methods takes creativity.
It’s Father’s Day in the US tomorrow. (Not until September at home in OZ). I wrote this song from the seed of an idea about an estranged relationship. As it unfolded, it spoke more and more deeply to my heart. It ministered to me. It was, and is still, a prayer.
It continues to hold relevance across more than one relationship. It’s a song of accepting responsibility and forgiveness and restoration. It feels like a theme that will see me out the rest of my days. It is the song of the Prodigal returning to his Father.
I pray that as it is played, others like myself will be drawn back and restored to fellowship in their relationships beginning with their Heavenly Father, where they can find healing and forgiveness out of which to address all the others.
When Jesus told us the greatest commandment was to love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your mind and all your soul and all your strength, he followed it up with ‘love your neighbor as yourself’.
When you love God with all your heart, you are then equipped to find the resources within you, to love others because you have known the way God has loved you. Loving yourself doesn’t bring this capacity…loving God does.
And now that I think about it, creating as a way to show my love for someone has been pretty much the way for me all my life!
Necessity is the mother of invention, they say and I believe both my parents have said this! ( Must be where I got it from! lol)
Having limited economic resources meant that my never ending parade of ideas and extended ideas, required other means if they were to find fruition.
That must be how I became the ‘recycling queen’ and why I always have an odd stash of assorted boxes, tins, envelopes and mailing boxes, magazines, cardboard rolls, tissue and craft paper, fabric, ribbons, electrical wiring…- and just as often as not, gathered, rather than bought. Recycling materials to me is not ‘cheap’, or a sign of poverty, but very much about creative innovation and especially clever.
If the ideas were interesting enough, the recycled element only made them better!
Naturally, no opportunity presented a stronger desire to produce something wonderfully different and personal than a family members’ birthday, or Christmas!
Add to that, sustained stretches of being separated at different times from so many of my family for varying periods and reasons-so, I was always full of longing to tell someone how much I thought of them and loved them and prayed to God for them. Nothing has changed. 🙂
These days, receiving anything via snail mail is a treat, but to go that little further and make it preciously personal somehow-that’s where the value really kicks in!
The joy in giving this way cannot be computed! I can’t even begin to tally the value of all that has come to my heart, in understanding how to impart true value to those we love and hope to train up well thru this priceless jewel we call creativity. By living this way, I came to see how beautiful memories are created and even more importantly, treasured and stored in full hearts, as sacred and deeply loved. And I managed to teach my children the value of the same and they make their own beautiful lives the same way.
In the book of Proverbs, King Solomon wrote, By wisdom , the Lord laid the earth’s foundations, by understanding, He set the heavens in place;
By His knowledge [the word for science] the mountains were formed and the clouds let drop their dew. Pr 3:19-20
I love thinking about this verse, and how God established the water cycle and astronomical navigation systems (!), but even more incredible is this: By wisdom a house is built By understanding it is established By knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures…. Pr 24:3-4
When I read this, I realized that my Creator God had given me access to very same stuff He used for all of Creation, so that I could create my own little world to share, in and through my household, and that the treasures are all about the enriching of the relationship experiences that connect us.
What higher honour and purpose could their be for creativity, if not love?
Only that which is of love is going to last, anyway…but we can get into that next time!
Have fun creating!!!
And please share some of your creative stories! ( they don’t have to involve the Arts 🙂 )
I used other creative arts and crafts as well-and still do. For me, creativity is a strength and this is the way I keep things fresh in my relationships. (It was how I kept teaching my children values and life lessons too. I taught them how to see things differently and look deeper.)
I took lots of photos of Larrie and I together because these were what sustained me whilst we were apart. Often whilst we were together, I didn’t get time to view them or do anything with them, but when I went home- I did. ( hence the video above)
Tip #2 ( #1 in earlier post) Keep the memories tangible. Make an album of photos, or “A Little Book Of Memories”- in this way, you are reliving it and fanning the flame till you meet again. Send it to your love.
Or share what is happening in YOUR world, so that they can be part of it too. This is good for keeping a healthy balance in your present life as well. Compile a visual album of the songs you shared.
Here’s the latest ‘little book’ I made for Larrie.
We couldn’t be together for Valentine’s Day, and as he had just come out to Australia, the Nov/Dec before, I used those experiences and made a special album of highlights.
Did I mention how much I love making books!
Come on, now.. share your story 🙂
Larrie and I used music in so many ways to connect with each other, even over the thousands of miles/kilometres of oceans.
For example, we gave each other private concerts! 🙂 -as you can see in this photo. Couldn’t work in harmonies due to the delays, but we had fun trying sometimes.
So, in the video above, in order to capture and highlight a visit to Australia by Larrie, I compiled our moments into a video slideshow and added the track of a song that we now do together. Ordinary Miracle by Sarah McLaughlan. Originally, rather ethereal and light, and part of the soundtrack for Charlotte’s Web, I made it a more syncopated and upbeat song of joy for the miracle of every day. Then, when Larrie heard it, he added what he calls the Oakland Stroke and that took the form of a gospel style praise ending-which suited me perfectly!
The song, itself, served as part of the memory of our creative time together, but even if you have a special song between you and someone you love, you can do this, or something like it. This was recorded several years back and I think we have developed it greatly since then, but it’s still part of our journey, just like this.
We took this photo the day we recorded this song, a day before I left for home and some other photos are included to give our friend, Jonny Otis some credit!
And the rest were taken whilst sharing our adventures in Oz, when Larrie came to see me, in Sept/Oct 2013 and met family and friends. It became a special kind of album that we could relive our ‘holiday’ through, even though once again so far apart.
But you can use all the arts to keep the fires burning!!
Even though this was a digital delivery, it was a timely investment, made up of countless moments.
In my next blog, I’ll show you some other ways 🙂
But in case you missed the download from last week… here it is.
From that very first night, when Larrie and I met, music was everywhere!
It drew us both to The Fireside Lounge.
It created an immediate bond between us that was deep.
Making music together that first evening, tied us together in some very unique kind of way.
It was intimate and personal, even as it was public and universal.
We have been ‘together’ ever since, even across the thousands of miles of long distance and months, and years, of waiting.
Now, maybe not everyone has it quite like we did, but I’m sure all can testify to the special associations music creates for us and how it so profoundly impacts our memories. Memories that Larrie and I chose to live and re-live often and over again, constantly fanning the flame.
When our souls are moved, music provides an avenue unlike any other, to express it.
And we all speak this language to some degree or another.
And so it began.
Even on that first night, apart from playing and singing together, music was playing an more extensive role. Larrie asked me if I knew certain songs, and insisted I listen to them, because they described his feelings from that night. The first one was by Tuck and Patti called You Take My Breath Away. So, of course, he was sweeping me off my feet before I ever got a chance to catch my breath!
You can hear it here,
Almost instantly, he was telling me song after song and it continued when I went all the way across the Pacific Ocean and back home to Australia, and in this way, he remained present with me. I could play these songs and felt him singing them to me. He was on fire and captivated and I was open to the romance of it all, having never encountered anything quite like it before. We both were. We had a repertoire building from that initial encounter and we kept adding more, and still do 🙂
It’s high time we added this ‘first’ love note by Tuck and Patti.
Larrie, who had given up any interest in singing love songs, felt the desire to sing them out from his heart again and more than that, he had a new song! Inspiration hit him and he came up with Lover From DownUnder, which is currently freely available for anyone who would like to have it. Just click here.
Tip #1: Create/Select/Highlight a special song that commemorates precious moments for you and breathe fresh life into the memories repeatedly by singing it over again and re-live the treasure of the story by telling it again this way.
My turn was coming… 🙂
But it didn’t stop there! Yes, I wrote a song for us and about my feelings, which we now sing as a duet called The Rest of My Days –hence the video above. For me, it isn’t just about music…it’s about making beautiful memories.
So maybe you’re not a songwriter (yet!), You can still use the songs of others, just like we did.
I would love to hear about your creative ways to keep relationships alive and full of vital connection. It doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship. I have to do it with all my babies, friends, siblings and mum, now…coz they are all so far away…
I have added a little something here to help you come up with a fun way to connect with someone you hold dear and near, but wish they were not so far away. Please share how you use the inspiration, or any of your own creative ideas.
I hope these simple ideas give you some food for thought and some cool playful inspirations of your own!
LET ME KNOW!!! I love feedback. Music To Fan The Fire